|I love my mom
||[Jun. 28th, 2012|09:31 am]
I am not afraid to admit it. In fact, I often feel like I'm bragging when I get to talk about the relationship I now have with my mother. I call her when I need guidance or kind words, if something exciting happened or just because I'm missing her. |
When I was living at home it was hard to appreciate all that she did for me. Now that I've been on my own for a while, I've come to understand how hard she worked and the sacrifices she has made so that my life would be as good as it is now. Also since moving away, she's gained confidence in my ability to take care of myself.
Often I am reminded of how lucky I am to have had both of my parents involved with my life. I am lucky to have the older sister I do and all that she was willing to do to contribute to my upbringing. My younger sister has also come into her own and is such a neat and fun person to be around. My favorite memories is of the game nights that we have, teasing, and laughing with each other.
There is such a spectrum of parenting styles and I'm intrigued by the relationships that I've been seeing. I've had parents telling me, we're planning this, or, I expect this will happen then. They completely talk for their children and have no idea that they are perpetuating their kid's dependence, instead of allowing them to make choices for themselves. Failure can be considered the best opportunity for learning, but it has become so easy for parents to prevent their children from failing.
Not only do I hear some of these kids looking for constant reassurance, but the parents are not developing any sense of confidence that their children might be able to take care of themselves. Why this happens, I don't know. Perhaps these parents are afraid of letting go. Worse, some may believe their children would fail and it would be a reflection of their parenting.
Anyone can just have a kid, but the ones who consider the skills and knowledge their children are going to need to be contributing members of society are the ones who are going to be better parents.